Oddly Me

Breathe in the good, breathe out the bad. I’ve learned a lot over the past few days. I’ve been blaming myself for something I couldn’t control. There’s something to be said about that. We don’t really have control over people’s lives, but we do have the power to change our own. Sure, we can influence people, but that only goes so far. I promised I wouldn’t blame myself for what happened and that healing started not long ago, thanks to a few loving people.  Most of all, I’ve healed a great deal overall. Let’s be honest…I’m not perfect. None of us are. So trying your hand at making sure everything is perfect will only bring you down. It’s actually impossible for something to be completely perfect because we live in an imperfect world. So why do we try so hard? For me, it stems from feeling like I have to. But the thing is…we don’t have to be perfect. We just have to try our best, and we do that day by day, step by step. Whatever pace you need to go at, you do it. Whatever road you need to go down, travel along and it all amounts to great things because it’s all good enough. Doing your best amounts to exactly what you need. Now onto loving yourself…

I guess I should say loving “myself” because I wouldn’t dream of telling you what to do. However, self love goes a very long way. It may seem weird or difficult looking into the mirror and saying to yourself “I love you”, but that’s exactly what you need. Everything starts with our perspectives and how we see everything. So, if that little voice inside your head isn’t being very thoughtful, all of that is going to reflect towards others. You can’t let yourself beat yourself up. Confusing, I know, but bear with me.

It’s not egotistical or prideful in anyway. Of course you shouldn’t let anything go to your head, but self love is meant to be completely freeing. It’s not easy though…it takes courage and a LOT of determination, but it’s completely possible. It’s not a destination, so don’t look at it that way. It’s all entirely a process, and one that will continue on all throughout your life. You have to work at it and remember that you’re worth it, no matter what. I know I’m probably blabbering on today, but this is important. Not just for me, but anyone who might be suffering in many types of situations. I just want to get it out there. Self love is important. You are the only you on this planet. Make sure you love yourself. Say a daily mantra or just remind yourself of how important you are. Accept your flaws, be true to yourself!

Lately I haven’t been taking my own advice, but that changed just recently. All thanks to the wonderful people I call family and of course my loving friends who I wouldn’t trade anything for. If you know me personally, you know that it’s been a lot harder this month, but I’m trying and that’s what counts. I can’t express my gratitude enough to those of you who keep me going when all my moods are down and out. I love you dearly and wouldn’t want to have it any other way!

Blessed Be )0(